It means this - completely letting go of an offense AND refusing to hold it against the one who offended.
This kind of forgivenes is impossible without the Lord. We need HIM to help us forgive everyday - every moment of the day!
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
What does it mean to enable? It means "to make possible"; "to assist".
There is a difference between forgiveness and enabling!
Did you hear that?
There is a difference between forgiving and enabing!!!
A lot of the people I meet with have difficulty with this. They tend to think that if they repeatedly forgive someone for a repeated offense they are encouraging them to continue in their actions.
Hear this please! FORGIVENESS DOESN'T MAKE THE OTHER PERSON RIGHT; IT MAKES YOU FREE!!!
Hallelujah!!! Praise the Lord!!!
You need to confront the other person about changing; you need to pray about their changing BUT - if they don't change - you need to refuse to allow it to eat at you, to make you bitter and resentful.
Forgiveness doesn't give them freedom to repeat the offense (even though they might do this); nor does it mean you allow that person to walk all over you or continue to hurt you!
Sometimes we may think we've done the "forgiveness work" when we truly haven't - some where inside there is still resentment. We must take that to God - ask Him if there is any unforgiveness in our heart towards.....? He'll let you know.
Forgiveness is a choice you will make every day! You CHOOSE to live in forgiveness! It is not a feeling that you have - it is a decisioon!
I believe there is someone out there who needs these words today! Spend time with our loving , forgiving Lord and ask Him to help you to have a forgiving heart towards the people that have hurt you. Right now I am praying for all the readers - asking God to help you be free in Him; to help you forgive where that needs to occur! May He fill you with His grace and peace today! May you KNOW that He loves you and has forgiven you!